Doubt: Is it a good thing?

Doubt, some say it is a taboo among good friends and even best friend. Because most people believe in one of the 'BFF's 10 commandments' code of...

"THOU SHALT NOT DOUBT THY BEST FRIEND"

You often heard "She is my best friend, I trust her! She will NEVER steal!!!" etc etc etc.
It might sounds reasonable at first, think about it, if you doubt your best friend, that would mean you lost your faith and trust on her/him right?

This is certainly not what friends should do!!
Best friends should trust and believe in each other...

Well I'm sad to say, there will always be two sides in a coin.





Let us see another example, in a relationship.
Boyfriend meets a girl and go out with her for a drink, he came back and the girlfriend smell Cacharel women perfume all over his body.

So the girlfriend thinks "I'm his beloved girlfriend, I shouldn't doubt him, I have to trust him, this is what love is all about! Love is about trust..."

WRONG!!!

Doubting is actually good, seriously. Think of it this way, by doubting, you will feel the need to investigate a person thoroughly, by doing so you are actually understanding that person even more.

Some people might argue that "But this is wrong! Trust is important in a relationship! If I can't even trust my own best friend/lover, then how are we going to stand strong throughout all the challenges ahead?"

Well, IMO, that is just an excuse for not trying to understand the person they care the most. Apathy is worse than hatred, those people that believe in "doubting is wrong" is actually being ignorant of self-conscious.
How often we see breakups happen due to distrust that comes out from the so called "TRUST"?

These 'doubting' initially was not so, for them, most of the partner are saying "I TRUST MY BOY/GIRLFRIEND, SHE WON'T DO THIS TO ME." but ended up doubting each other, and blaming each other afterward.


This is a sad case, when people having a wrong mindset of 'doubt' and believe that 'doubting' is of all evil.

Let us take the BOYFRIEND & GIRLFRIEND scenario again, the girl is actually encourage to doubt her boyfriend, by doubting, she might [call] the girl that gone out with the boyfriend and ask politely (not advisable), or she can just ask her boyfriend a simple [ where have you been?] etc etc etc.

Of course one should not show your partner that you are doubting him/her, that is stupid.
Doubt in an 'unknown' manner.

This is not betraying the trust but salvaging the relationship.

What I'm trying to say is, by using the RIGHT tactic, doubting is actually GOOD in discovering what lies beneath. You will learn more about the person you doubt.
If one withdraw their mindset of "DOUBTING IS BAD", then one will find truth in another angle.

Hmmm... So doubt it in a good intention, and be calm when dealing with betrayal (If there is) Life is just a road full of obstacles, it is down to you to make it work.

TILL THEN

HAVE A NICE DAY ^^

Photos are taken from: http://www.freefoto.com,

2010 - A New Year Resolution

*Shake your tailfeather (remix) version playing in the background*

Rain drops drizzles down on my 'beloved' ss2. Means it bloody going to have lightning storm again :/
Okay, I'm a bit exaggerating over here but who wouldn't when the a brand new year is around the corner -.-


Looking back on 2009, I've really lost a lot of my precious time doing basically nothing other than Facebook, Facebook and Facebook. I've gone to less night clubs in 2009, but I spent more on it. Weird...


Besides starting to understand the meaning of friendship, I've started to cherish those friends I've known and hang out with since a few years back. My usual Taiping kaki like Eddy and Woon Kiat has become a big part of me in going through the year of 2009.


Then, I've gotten to know the importance of having cousins and relatives. The days I live in Jeram (my mom's hometown) made me realised that relatives does provide a good platform for me to get help. Okay, I'm being too realistic here but this is really the main reason I've become more close to them. Of course along the way, I've found that they are more than just 'allies' when I need help, but they are my closest connection I have, since we share the same blood from the same tree.
I love them even more each and every single day.


Hmmm... Enough of 2009, let us get going on 2010!!!


New Year Resolution for 2010:
1) Get myself away from having bad debts; stop going to night clubs; must have less visits to Cyber Cafe for Dota and Left For Dead 2 =.=

2) Look for a job that relates to what I'm studying. Seriously, I really need to buckle up.

3) Practice how to drive a car in KL since I will be having one soon :/ Driving in KL needs more than guts, wits is important as well. Thinking of having a GPS too, just in case a nut-shell like me get myself lost in the middle of KL.

4) Decrease my daily-involves Facebook games to 2.
I'm serious. You have no idea how many hours I've spent DAILY on these games :/
I've spent so much time here until Facebook might hired me as their moderator soon =.=

5) Write at least 2 blog entries a week. Hehe! This is to ensure frequent traffic to my blog^^v

6) Save money, for the sake of going bungee jumping in Australia. Ann, I will try hard to save enough for that jump that I promised T^T


(might add others at the end of the day)

TILL THEN

HAVE A NICE YEAR^^

Currently busy with FYP

So not much to write aside from the life of me in Jeram.

Jeram, a place between Ipoh and Kampar was a place where people lives a simple life of getting awake 6 am in the morning (my grandma), go to the fruit farm for work (uncles and aunties), and eat Lui Cha (擂茶)= a form of vegetarian cuisine that my aunts always make. Wow! talk about 'fun'.


Few days ago, I've gone to Bukit Tambun Ipoh to get myself sunk in the hot water. It feels bloody good ^^ and I can't agree more when my aunt say "You will feel blur blur after sinking yourself into the hot water, once you get home, you will sleep like sleeping beauty and never gonna wake up again"

That is exactly what happened few days ago when I'm done with the hot spring. Ohyeah~

Feeling the cold rain on my face while getting half sunk in hot water. A feeling that I will never forget.

The water was so hot, that once I thought of bringing an egg and try cooking it XD

Or may be I'm just getting a little bit insane.

HooHooo...

Again, sorry for the late post, a lot happen in those few weeks.

I will post it here once I'm mentally ready for it.

TILL THEN

HAVE A NICE DAY ^^

Batu Caves trip with Kung and Vinu

hohohO! I'm lazy, Oh yes!

I'm procrastinating, Oh my...

But I still write blog like how I used to be.

This entry will be a bit different, as I will describe what happen that day by using pictures as the main tool in explaining.

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Thanks to our man Kung for inviting us for this trip, I have the opportunity to climb the stairs of Batu Caves temple. The 272 concrete steps look a bit scary at first considering it has been years since I last climb stairs =.="
but thank god it ain't as difficult as I thought.

Quin told me the day before to buy the flower thingy at the bottom of the caves in order to get blessing when I reach the top. Well, it won't harm me to try so I say why not?

After buying the things we need, we headed up the stairs...

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15 minutes and we are there ^^




We got blessed twice inside the caves up there, saw an iguana along the way, and of course, who could miss the snake that was 'premiered' by the locals XD
Oh yes, Vinu loves snake (hahaha!) Chill bro! Gosh, I just realised we didn't took the picture of the snake T.T



Is a thing going up, going down is another different story...
No doubt it was easier to head down later as it is not as fatigue-demanded as going up, but looking down from 272 steps above isn't something nice either =.="
It is quite scary.

Taking a break~

Finally we reached down and took a shot at the Murugan statue.



but what made my day was actually Kung's DSL camera ^^b
It was nice to hold a professional camera that day.
I took some shots with it. Huhu~

A white bird among the black birds
Love this picture so much ^^

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Next destination, Kolam Panas Selayang.

The so-called hot spring.

This is how it looks like at the bottom of the pool

At first we thought we can sink our feet in the pool, mana tahu, the notice there said "Don't put your feet into the pool." =.= I get it, I get it...

Don't think negatively my friend!! XD

It feels great putting my feet in. Even though is freaking HOT!!!
Then I saw this old man putting half of his head into the hot pool...
It is ridiculous =.="
No wonder I saw some weird marks on his face...
May be it is the consequences of doing so.

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Next we went to Templer's Park at Selayang.

It was very very spooky actually, very few people were at the swimming pool there, not to mention not many people tracking that place -.-"
But ya, we did have a good time there ^^b




Finally, it is time to go home, Kung brought us to buy one of the famous Burgers in town ^^
It so unique as it includes pineapple in the burgers between the patty and the bread. Ohyeaaaaah~

TILL THEN

HAVE A NICE DAY ^^